Pastor’s Wife: Thriving in the Fishbowl Part 2 —  March 16, 2014

Ten types of pastor’s wives (here is the last 5):

6. The “I loved it when he was a pastor, but now that he is at the conference, not so much” pastor’s wife.

Similar to #2. Tell your husband to preach new sermons. I mean, how many times is he going to preach the same one! Pastors, since your family is your ministry, if God calls you to descend into administration, feed your spouse.

Be prayerful. (for new sermons)

7. The “single focus” pastor’s wife.

She does one thing and one thing only but she does that well. This means that other ministries don’t get her attention and that is A-OK. Many pastor’s wives are not stay-at-home, taking care of the children, mothers. They have careers, sometimes making more than the husbands. That is why it is of paramount importance that you do what you are gifted at, not what people want you to do.

Be intentional.

8. The “she can preach better than him” pastor’s wife.

I’ve met several of them. Some were two times as talented as the spouse was. Some of them even thought about going in the ministry at one point, but found closed doors. Thank God those doors that used to be closed are opening.

Be excellent.

9. The “second marriage” pastor’s wife.

Either by death or divorce, a small but significant segment of the pastor’s wives fall into this category. The most freeing statement that I can give you is this: You don’t have to be her. Steve Jobs said it this way: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. [1]

10. The neglected pastor’s wife.

Most at one time or another have been. Many pastors have committed spiritual adultery. They loved more, prayed more, visited more, dedicated more time and energy to Jesus’ bride than their own. If this is you, don’t give up. Don’t underestimate the power of prayer and of a lovefrontration. Probably the worst thing you can do is sulk and internalize your powerlessness.

11. The honored pastor’s wife.
I know we said ten, but this one is every pastor’s wife. We honor you. We love you. We appreciate you. You will have a special place in the kingdom of heaven, where there are no more fishbowls.

Any comments or suggestions,

Let me know how I can pray for you.


[1] Gallo, Carmine (2014-03-04). Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets of the World’s Top Minds (p. 6). St. Martin’s Press. Kindle Edition.

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