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Small Churches. Big Potential

De parte de los líderes juveniles en todos lados, a los padres en todo lugar: Los amamos y los apreciamos, pero a veces queremos estrangularlos (con amor ¡por supuesto!). Después de haber trabajado por 20 años junto a mi esposa (ella es la experta, yo solo hablo cuando me dicen) en el ministerio juvenil, he visto algunas cosas de parte de los padres que me gustaría corregir. Aquí hay cinco de los errores más comunes que los padres hacen:

1. Castigar a sus hijos con la iglesia.

Sí, lo escucharon bien. Johnny o María se portaron mal y los castigan con no pueden ir al Camporee o a la reunión de jóvenes. Creo que hay otras 1, 000,001 formas como puedes castigar a tus hijos. Por favor encuentra formas mejores. Un día querrás que él/ella asista y no querrá hacerlo. ¿Porqué hacer que ese día llegue antes? Con toda la oposición que la iglesia tiene estos días ¿de verdad necesitamos añadir esto?

2. Hacer que el líder juvenil trabaje más duro.

Muchas veces las personas que trabajan con grupos juveniles tienen hijos propios y son voluntarios que desean hacer una diferencia. No tienen mucho tiempo, tal como el resto de nosotros. Algunos padres hacen el menor esfuerzo posible para que sus hijos se involucren en actividades juveniles. Lo siguiente ha sucedido demasiadas veces: Padres que no recogen o llevan a sus hijos a la reunion del club o actividad. Después de un viaje largo para una salida, ellos esperan que el líder juvenil los lleve hasta su casa. Una vez, regresando de una actividad, una de los adolescentes en el carro contactó a sus padres quienes le dijeron que no la podían recoger. Después de media noche, tuvimos que ir y dejarla en sus casas. No nos molestó, pero ¿de veras?

3. Nunca involucrarse, pero hacer un gran escándalo cuando no te gusta ___________.

Escribir cartas y quejarse por rumores o comentarios que otros padres hicieron. ¿No te encanta cuando los padres que no trabajan y no han asistido a ninguno de los eventos, de pronto, te escriben correos electrónicos repugnantes porque uno de los eventos o situaciones no salió bien? Honra a tus trabajadores juveniles. No son perfectos y necesitan corrección igual que nosotros. Dales gracia. Ellos cuidan de tus hijos.

4. Utilizar a los hijos de peones

Algunos miembros de iglesia utilizan a sus hijos para juegos políticos. Boicotear eventos y alimentarles con preguntas tendenciosas provenientes de un adulto son formas destructivas de dañar la fe de tus adolescentes. Esta generación piensa que la iglesia es superficial. Miran a la gente de la iglesia actuando politicamente y se desaniman. Pelea tus propias batallas. Los hijos no son tus peones, mensajeros o aliados políticos.

5. Asistir a un evento del ministerio juvenil y ¡olvidarse QUE ES PARA JÓVENES!

Algunos de estos errores incluyen interrumpir la lección y no dejar que los adolescentes hablen, criticando la música, el vestido y el contenido del programa. ¡No es para ti! No llegues al campamento y demandes silencio a las 10 p.m. Pídele a Dios paciencia y un nivel de tolerancia más alto. Lo necesitarás.

Oro por todos los líderes juveniles allá afuera. Honramos su servicio y dedicación. ¿Me acompañas a hacerlo tú también?

 

Roger Hernandez es el Director de Ministerio y Evangelismo de la Unión del Sur (de la IASD). Se ha presentado en múltiples eventos, incluyendo campestres, convenciones de liderazgo, cruzadas evangelísticas y eventos de entrenamiento. Es el autor de cinco libros, el más reciento, Epic Fall [Caída Épica], publicado en 2011. Su esposa es Kathy y sus hijos, Yessenia, Deisy, Vanessa y Jonathan.

 

From youth workers everywhere, to parents anywhere: We love you and appreciate you, but we sometime want to strangle you (with love, of course! After working for 20 years alongside my wife (she is the expert, I just talk when I am told) in youth ministry, I have seen some things from parents I’d like to see corrected. Here are five of the most common mistakes parents make:

1. Punishing their kids with church.

Yes, you heard it right. Johnny or Maria behaved badly; he can’t go to Camporee or youth group. I believe there are 1,000,001 other ways you can punish your kids. Please find better ways. One day, you will want him/her to go and she won’t want to. Why make that day come sooner? With all the opposition church gets these days, do we really need to add to that?

2. Make the youth worker work extra hard.

Many times the people that work in youth group have kids of their own and are volunteers that want to make a difference. They don’t have much time, just like the rest of us. Some parents make the least effort possible to get their kids involved in youth activities. I had the following happen too many times: Parents that would not pick up or drop off kids. After a long drive after an outing they expected the youth leaders to drop them off at the house. Once, coming back from an activity, one of the teens in the car contacted her parents that said they could not pick her up. After midnight, we had to go and drop them off. We did not mind, but, really?

3. Never get involved, but make a big stink when you don’t like ____________________.

Write letters and complain because of hearsay or comments other parents made. Don’t you just love it when parents that put no work in and have not attended any of the events all of a sudden write nasty emails because of one event or situation that did not go right? Honor your youth workers. They are not perfect, and need correction like all of us. Give them grace. They take care of your kids.

4. Use kids as pawns.

Some church members use kids for political games. Boycotting events and asking leading questions that came from an adult are destructive ways of damaging your teen’s faith. This generation thinks the church is shallow. They see church people not acting very churchy. Fight your own battles. Kids are not your pawns, messengers or political allies.

5. Attending the youth ministry event and forgetting IT’S FOR YOUTH!

Some of these mistakes include taking over the lesson and not letting the teens speak, criticizing the music, dress, and content of the program. It’s not for you! Don’t show up for camp and demand quiet at 10pm. Ask God for patience and a higher level of tolerance. You will need it.

I pray for all youth workers out there today. We honor your service and dedication. Will you join me?

 Courtesy of Preaching Rocket. Great resource. http://therocketcompany.com/preaching/ 

  1. Thou shalt not preach stolen sermons.  God has a message to deliver to your church through you.
  2. Thou shalt tell stories.  When it comes to making an impact, stories work better than facts and points.
  3. Thou shalt finish early in the week.  The principle of first fruits doesn’t just apply to money – put that sermon in the crockpot and give the Holy Spirit more time to speak to you.
  4. Thou shalt make your point memorable.  Having a topic isn’t the same as having a point.
  5. Thou shalt show it, not just say it.  Object lessons, images and props can enhance a message and help it be remembered.
  6. Thou shalt preach what God says, not what you think.  I’m sure your opinions are interesting, but God’s Word is eternal.
  7. Thou shalt find common ground.  People won’t automatically tune in because you’re the preacher or you’re preaching the Bible.
  8. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s style.  You are not Andy Stanley, Francis Chan or Perry Noble.  Not only is that okay, it’s good.
  9. Thou shalt keep it short.  The congregation may stop listening before you’re done talking.
  10. Thou shalt get help.  I know your spouse loves you, but you need more unbiased feedback.  It’s why we created the Preaching Rocket Coaching.

Did I miss any?

Featured School: GCA

imprrh@gmail.com —  September 1, 2013

Featured School- GCA

“The GCA Church Family exists to capture the hearts and minds of young people and develop them into fully devoted disciples of Jesus Christ.” So reads the mission statement of GCA Church. I just finished doing a week of prayer* there with my daughter Vanessa, and there are some interesting, practical and reproducible aspects of a church and school that is doing it right. Here are three things I observed:

1. Intentional church involvement of students.

This church is can best be described as intentional. Their mission statement is not just a plaque on the wall. Their pastors of 12 years, committed ministers, (and terrible golfers), have led the church to live out the mission statement. Most ministry positions are staffed by older members that see it as their calling to mentor and train a young disciple. Fantastic! If you are reading this and would like to connect with a resource in this area, they would be great to talk to. The system works. It’s not perfect, but I haven’t seen many better ones. Here is their mission statement once again. Powerful: “The GCA Church Family exists to capture the hearts and minds of young people and develop them into fully devoted disciples of Jesus Christ.” (http://gcachurch.org/church-information-and-service-times) Watch a video here that explains it further: http://gcachurch.org/gca-church-video-what-we-are-about

2. Tenure.

This is a recurring theme in my blog. As I travel throughout the SU, I see many successful, thriving ministries and organizations that have one thing in common: long tenures. The principal, the pastor, the chaplain at GCA, have all more than 10 years of service at that school. It’s difficult to create traction and foster an atmosphere of connection when the leadership changes every year. I encourage you to stay for the long haul. It makes a difference.

3. Spiritual atmosphere.

It’s hard to define what that is, but I know it when I see it. To see 250 teenagers engaged in worship is not only rare, it’s fantastic. To see over 20 decide for baptism and many more rededicate their lives was even better.  There is an elective class called Praise Band. This is also a great idea that more schools should adopt. The teacher prepares several groups of students to lead out worship, not just sing up front. (There IS a difference). These guys practice, set up, show up early, lead worship in fantastic ways. They know the why, behind the how. Connect with him? matorsne@gcasda.org

Today, I pray for all the schools in our Union. Adventist Education makes a difference, and it’s worth it.

*(See some of past weeks of prayer here: http://www.gcasda.org/)

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@gphudson1 @DonKeeleJr