Devotional for today: Marriage Works
This week I celebrated 20 years of marriage. As I reflect on them, I would like to share three principles I learned along the way.
1. First doesn’t mean better- Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. 21 “So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.” My first years of marriage I had a hard time understanding that my wife did not work for me, she worked with me. Just because God created man first, doesn’t mean we get to subjugate our bride. When we became partners, our marriage flourished. I am sometimes perplexed by the male headship doctrine espoused by some. That’s Baptist and Catholic. I am neither.
2. Divorce was not on the table- Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” In order for a couple to be united, there must be intentionality. In order for them to separate, the same thing must happen. You must voluntary choose to leave. That’s why we decided to work through issues using different techniques (not all worked) but divorce was NEVER on the table as an option. We are united. We will work through this. We won’t give up. (I understand there are exceptions, in the case of abuse for example. Those are exceptions)
3. God brought her to me. Genesis 2:22 “Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” It wasn’t my smooth talking, my ability for develop income, the need for sexual gratification, the fear of loneliness, or the pressure of society that caused our relationship to happen. She was meant to go to another college and so was I. The way things worked out, I could see the hand of God in it. What a wonderful feeling to know God is involved in your relationships! When you make it happen, it’s not the same as when He does.
Conclusion- Partner with your partner. Remove divorce from the list of options. Rely on God.
Prayer request- today I am inclined to pray for your relationships. Any requests, please write them here, send to my inbox or put “silent”. God knows.